Since childhood, we have been told the importance of first impression. I still remember the time when my mom helped me pick up the dress for my first ever date. She told me how important first impression is and on the first date it's more than just words it's also the clothes. However in the world of online dating first impression is often the words we choose to compose your first message to the other single in the virtual world of Internet. First message is an acknowledgment of interest in the other user and a potential start of a very long dating process. This first message is probably the most important message you will ever send to this other user. Let's see what kind of vibes you want to send to the other user using your first message. You probably want to let him or her know that you find their profile interesting and you want to open a channel for communication. You might like to point out that that you two have similar interests and share a few hobbies or beliefs in common.
Do you know that an attractive girl on an online dating site receives at least five messages per day. It is important that your message stands out among the crowd. The most effective way to make your message stand out is to send a message which shows who you really are. Such a message has much more potential for creating a genuine interest rather than a copy paste message. Here are a few tips to send a good first message
1. Say more than a few words. If you're taking your time to send message to another user you probably have found something interesting in his or her profile. You should point that out in the message and let the other user know why you found the profile interesting.
2. Don't say a lot. You want to keep the first message short, simple and sweet. First message is just an indication of interest and you want to check whether the other user is interested in talking to you too. First message is not the message to pour your heart out and and say that you're in love with other user. You want to express your interest but at the same time you do not want to come across as desperate for attention.
3. Keep it witty. A recent survey suggests that the best way to break the ice on online dating is via humor. If you have an amazing sense of humor, this is the time to put it in action. See if can insert some humor into your first message without making it offensive.
4. Sell your self. If you're a single professional who has his or her act together you have a lot going for you. You don't want to come across as a salesman but at the same time you probably want to hint that you do have your act together. Your profile should also indicate the same qualities.
5. Don't sweat over it. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If you send a message to a user, don't hold your breath for a response. She might be busy with work and might take even a couple of days to respond to your message or she might realize that you two are not compatible with each other and might choose to ignore the message. Her decision on whether to reply to your message or not in no way impacts how good a person you are. Online dating provides you with an opportunity to meet hundreds and thousands of single professionals in your area. You found a profile really interesting and there are more people like her in your locality.
First message is like a pickup line. Having a witty first message does help you but it doesn't guarantee a long-term relationship. Dating whether it starts from a bar or an online dating site is a very lengthy process which requires attention, commitment and focus. The most important part to remember when using online dating sites is to have patience, remain motivated and make the best use of the opportunity available.
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